tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7637984090891248483.post778450974947567830..comments2023-09-01T04:59:08.375-04:00Comments on A New Me - Relating to Cancer: Good News?A New Mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14659893023568144304noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7637984090891248483.post-38096961064989745372015-08-21T21:56:17.849-04:002015-08-21T21:56:17.849-04:00Sorry to hear of the array of issues/concerns. I a...Sorry to hear of the array of issues/concerns. I appreciate your feedback, as it is a great hope of mine that those who read the things I share will be able to apply them to those they care about and love. As I said to Esther, there are no set parameters that work. I am finding new stuff all the time. Every person and circumstance may vary, and my quirks may not be another's. But what I hope is that there is mindfulness, questioning, and a level of contemplation and empathy when dealing with those who need help. Odds are most of them wish they never needed you the way they do, and it can be such a painful thing on so many levels. Perhaps a bit of understanding can alleviate some of that. Thx for being here :)A New Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14659893023568144304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7637984090891248483.post-73199446074315989762015-08-21T21:49:24.374-04:002015-08-21T21:49:24.374-04:00I have learned a lot about what I need/don't n...I have learned a lot about what I need/don't need over the last 3+ years. What those things are are often figured out in the experiences I have. When I am clear about what works, I do try my best to convey it both to people in person, as well as here, on this blog so that lessons learned may help others. Often I have found that there are things I don't know, until I know. You know? And, unfortunately, there are no universal ways of expressing everything a person should know entering these waters with me. I wish there were for all of our sakes, but there just aren't. Part of the way that I now deal with things come from lessons learned. So far it seems to work pretty well for me, in some regard. It is the regard that I cannot predict or control that can become the hiccup. Thx for continuing to show up here :) One of these days we really should talk.A New Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14659893023568144304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7637984090891248483.post-52688275246725699542015-08-21T16:26:43.475-04:002015-08-21T16:26:43.475-04:00I know this is all after the fact, but is it possi...I know this is all after the fact, but is it possible for you set up parameters of what to say or not say for your next doctor's appointment. You can specifically say, the best way to support me is to...(fill in the blank). <br />And you're right it's important to be mindful of the person actually going through the situation.esther alixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06593416428829955402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7637984090891248483.post-16424541379997832862015-08-21T05:47:27.840-04:002015-08-21T05:47:27.840-04:00Something to think about and act on. I see where y...Something to think about and act on. I see where you're coming from and being mindful of someone's need to be in control of a situation is important. I have more than a few (in-laws, friends, sibling) who are dealing with various health challenges and I'm doing my best to help when I can, with what they need, and to stay out of the way...trying not to intrude on their autonomy and their processing of information, emotion, and more. Your post will definitely help me keep things in balance. Be mindful. I hope anyone who reads this, and anyone who's close to you, can understand how important that balance is.CDBaker2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03597592310017549826noreply@blogger.com