Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Be Grateful for Life

I keep hearing people talking about how - if you are still alive - that is all that matters. If you are still breathing, then "be grateful."

Here's the thing, though, not one of those making this grand prouncement is dealing with a major illness, or major situation. Not one.

Can there be those who can both say it, and be dealing with a crisis? I would guess yes. But I would tend to think they'd be in the minority.

When quality of life is minimal, when pain is great, when there is a lot of uncertainty, I do not think that platitude/refrain means the same thing to a person dealing with a crisis, as opposed to one who is not. 

It sounds good, and is so easy to say when not challenged in the way that many are. I would suggest this particular idea may not necessarily be the best thing to say to someone who is struggling, no matter how well-intentioned.

There is a chance it will work no where near as well as you would like it to, and quite possibly have the opposite of the desired effect. You likely have no clue what another is dealing with, and if your situation sucked as much as theirs, there is likely a high probability you would not appreciate hearing it, either. 

As always, I can't speak for everyone, but I also know that I am not alone in my perspective. Hopefully, what I write gives you something to consider when wanting to help another. 

Sometimes the best help is no help at all. Sometimes life just sucks. Sometimes there is pain. Sometimes life does not live up to the myriad of Rosey Platitudes that sound good when we don't need them, but fail miserably during many of life's worst, and most challenging, moments.

Sometimes silence or acknowledgment goes a lot farther than an attempt at a fix.

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