Tuesday, January 29, 2013
There once was a person that I had spoken to at length
more than once. He told me how valuable what I had
said was. He knew I was a coach and appreciated my
coaching but went off and hired a coach elsewhere.
Another time I helped a person, and in the midst of a
conversation we were having she thanked me for the
help and was asking for more help, but when I asked
her to help me, I was rebuffed.
I have been thinking about these instances today, along
with others. There is an expression that no one takes
advantage of us without our permission, so if I was going
to blame anyone for these things, it would seem I have
only myself to blame.
But the thing is, how does one know that a helping hand
will be lop-sided? I know not every helping hand will be
balanced. At the same time, there have been many
occasions in which I have been left wondering, "what the
Part of this is about money. And part of it is not. All of
it, though, I think relates to value, and it makes me wonder
if people aren't valuing me, or if I am not valuing myself
and it shows up in how I am treated by others.
I wonder how much of it may relate to how much I want
to be liked by someone. Do I extend myself more than I
should, hoping that the person will like me?
I am only now formulating these questions. As usual, I find
myself with more questions than answers.
But I guess one has to start somewhere.